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Value: Compromise

Time: 20 min

Appropriate Ages: 4+


  • Book: Red and Yellow's Noisy Night by Josh Selig

  • Optional for activity for ages 4-8: A set of toy characters to play pretend scenarios with, with enough for everyone participating to have one toy character. For example:

    • Barbies​

    • Lego guys

    • Army soldiers

    • Dolls

    • Small action figures



  1. Read the story. 

  2. Return to the following pages to discuss the following questions, as desired:


How are Red and Yellow different?


Do you think it's always bad that they

are different?


Do you think talking to each other always fixes the problem? Why or why not?


How can you know if you should keep trying for a solution or if you should give up thinking

of new ideas?


What was the author trying to teach us about in this book?


  • Do you have friends or family members who are very different than you?

  • How are you guys different?​

  • What is helpful and good about your differences?

  • What is a problem with those differences?

  • When do you disagree with other people a lot? Or when do they annoy you?

  • How could you talk to them in a way that might help both of you feel better?

Extension Activity:

Using the pretend character toys, act out a situation with the toys where the toys need to practice compromising. Consider using a situation discussed in the previous discussion as one that the child frequently encounters when they need to practice compromising. If you still need ideas for a situation to practice a compromise, select from one of the following:

  • Everyone involved wants to watch different movies- ex: Frozen, Spiderman, Daniel Tiger

  • One person is trying to take a nap, but the other person wants to practice their drum set

  • Someone wants hamburgers for lunch, but someone wants pizza

  • Someone is trying to clean their room, but the other person wants to build a big Lego city

  • Someone wants to play Uno together, but the other person wants to read by themselves

In your chosen scenario, emphasize the following before you begin:

  • The goal is for everyone to be happy in the end, not for one person to be mad, stolen from, or very sad. Everyone should be okay with the end goal!

  • Sometimes the first idea doesn't work for everyone. Sometimes you have to think of many many ideas before one works.

  • It is important that everyone gets to talk and everyone is listened to, at the beginning to figure out what the problem is, and at the end to make sure everyone is okay with the compromise.

  • There are many good ways to think of new ideas! You can write them down on a board, go around and take turns thinking of new ideas, or ask others like an adult for their opinion on a good idea. Sometimes you can use pieces of many ideas to make your final, best idea!