Value: Forgiveness

Time: 20 minutes

Appropriate Ages: 5-11


  • Book: Enemy Pie, by Derek Munson, with illustrations by Tara Calahan King

    • Available on Amazon HERE​

    • For optional activity: ice cream, bowls, spoons, horse radish sauce/ lemon juice



  1. Read story. At the following points in the story, prompt with the following discussion questions:


Has someone ever made you

feel that way?

How do you think it made him feel to have to go knock on his enemy's door and ask to play?

Do you think that was easy or hard to do?

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Have you noticed anything changing?


What happened to the boys that used to be enemies?

Why do you think that happened?

What do you think was really in enemy pie?

What is the lesson of this story?

2. After reading the book, ask the following questions:

  • How do you feel when other children won't let you play with them? 

  • Has anyone ever done anything to you that made you want to never play with them again?

  • How did that make you feel? (angry? sad? frustrated?)

  • Is it okay to feel that way? (YES)

  • What did that feeling make you want to do? (Hit them back? Never talk to them?)

  • Would that action help the problem? Or would it make the problem worse?

  • What is something you could do that would help the problem get better?

  • Are there ever situations where it would be best to never talk to them again?

    • Here you can discuss things like consent, setting healthy boundaries, and staying away from people who make you feel unsafe or worse about yourself.

  • When is it a good idea to give someone a second chance and try to be friends again?

3. Optional Activity: Go to the kitchen and serve each child a spoonful of horseradish/lemon juice. Ask them if they like it (no). Explain that giving them yucky food is kind of like treating someone else in an unkind way. Say you are sorry. Then scoop them up a bowl of ice cream. Ask if they would like to add some horseradish sauce/lemon juice to the ice cream (no). Explain that continuing to add yucky food to the ice cream is kind of like continuing to be mean to our friends. It doesn't make anyone happier or solve any problems- it just gives more people more yucky and unkind things. The only way to solve the problem is to stop trying to "make it even" and just enjoy the ice cream together. Again, consider a healthy discussion on when boundaries should be drawn to avoid situations of chronic victimization.